This audio/podcast highlights three (just to mention a few) mechanisms I use in connection with forgiveness when I am wronged by people. I explore the topic indepth and explain the reasons behind those choices. The breakdown are as follows:
HEY YOU DON’T EXIST
This method of forgiving others may sound draconian to you and could in principle be critiqued and categorised as not letting go. However, I don’t entirely agree, reason being, choosing to cut off the people who continuously create toxic environment for me keeps me in a good space. The sad thing is sometimes dealing with toxic people brings out the worst in you. For ones own spiritual growth and sanity, it is sometimes best to avoid the whole package i.e. the toxic person and the toxic action. You forgive them, but you put them in a box and throw away the keys literally 🙂
HEAD-ON COLLISION WITH THE CULPRIT
Like the Wendy Williams Show slogan: “Say it like you mean it”. If you love someone dearly you should be able to express your hurt, resulting from their negative actions, to them freely. It may be seen as confrontational but at least, it allows people to communicate their true feelings ie pain/betrayal/sadness etc. This method works for me the best. You can be assertive about the way you feel without being overly confrontational.
MISS ME WITH THE BS
This method may be seen as deflection but hey sometimes people can be very predictable so when the situation is about to go left, let’s just say it would be best to forgive them in advance….”case closed🔨next caaasee”. Just drop the topic, let it go, crack a joke, change subjects, dance, think happy thoughts etc….simply anything but the real deal especially if it is not that deep…”Let it gooooo🎶”.
That brings me to the end of this blog. Please feel free to comment below and let me know how you handle forgiveness. No judgment here just an open space for interesting discourse.
“Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you” Ephesians 4:32 NLT