The Concept of Forgiveness

This audio/podcast highlights three (just to mention a few) mechanisms I use in connection with forgiveness when I am wronged by people. I explore the topic indepth and explain the reasons behind those choices. The breakdown are as follows:

HEY YOU DON’T EXIST

This method of forgiving others may sound draconian to you and could in principle be critiqued and categorised as not letting go. However, I don’t entirely agree, reason being, choosing to cut off the people who continuously create toxic environment for me keeps me in a good space. The sad thing is sometimes dealing with toxic people brings out the worst in you. For ones own spiritual growth and sanity, it is sometimes best to avoid the whole package i.e. the toxic person and the toxic action. You forgive them, but you put them in a box and throw away the keys literally 🙂

HEAD-ON COLLISION WITH THE CULPRIT

Like the Wendy Williams Show slogan: “Say it like you mean it”. If you love someone dearly you should be able to express your hurt, resulting from their negative actions, to them freely. It may be seen as confrontational but at least, it allows people to communicate their true feelings ie pain/betrayal/sadness etc. This method works for me the best. You can be assertive about the way you feel without being overly confrontational.

MISS ME WITH THE BS

I was waiting for you at the door

This method may be seen as deflection but hey sometimes people can be very predictable so when the situation is about to go left, let’s just say it would be best to forgive them in advance….”case closed🔨next caaasee”. Just drop the topic, let it go, crack a joke, change subjects, dance, think happy thoughts etc….simply anything but the real deal especially if it is not that deep…”Let it gooooo🎶”.

That brings me to the end of this blog. Please feel free to comment below and let me know how you handle forgiveness. No judgment here just an open space for interesting discourse.

“Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you” Ephesians 4:32 NLT

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xoxo

Anchor

I do not worry so much when faced with a storm because I have an anchor that keeps me steadfast while the billows roll.

There is so much in life to make one worry. However there are also many things in life to make a person smile. For example the air that we breathe, the very fact that we are alive, family, church, water, food, work, just being able to live a normal life and all.

I think of my anchor as my supporter, my strength, my comforter, my security and my safe pair of hands. I may be feeling weak internally but I put my faith in my anchor because I know that I will go through the storm no matter the outcome.

Having an anchor does not mean that one would not stumble or perhaps fall in the midst of the storm. Having an anchor also does not mean that one will not get hurt or even die.

Having an anchor means the storm won’t break or sink the ship. So even when all is not well with you there is still something to be grateful for.

Do not throw in the towel when the going gets tough. Trust me I have reached certain points in life when I have felt like giving up and pulling out because of a hiccup or two. Wanting to bury my head in the sand and just quit!

But my heavenly father reminds me daily that there is so much more to be happy for and to not allow myself to be discouraged when faced with trouble. It is right to say that God is bigger than the trouble we face so why should we worry.

Keeping focused

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What lies ahead…?

Almost at the end of my postgraduate studies and I find myself wondering about what the future holds. As layers of my future peel off each day, I feel as though my path is becoming clearer; whether knocking on the doors of employers or focusing on my finals, one thing I know is that: starting from somewhere, certainly, will lead to some place!

The build up of anxiety isn’t quite odd, just staying focused for now and hoping for the best.

Watch this space…

xx